We are Pretty Girl and Kitten here. I am the pretty one, and Kitten is the big orange kitty. (Surprise!) We are both girl cats and we were very satisfied whapping each other on the head, chasing, or annoying each other. Then things changed. Our mom moved in with her boyfriend who has a cat named Duke, and we have regrouped.
The boyfriend was afraid we would gang up on his cat, and the mom said that would never happen. “Cats don’t pair up like that,” she said. But we fooled them. Now we stick together like never before, and poor Duke is fading into the background as we write (ha-ha, poor Duke).
So here is our issue: Do cats who initially hated each other, then were forced to live together, “bond” and form a team when introduced to a single cat? I am the smallest but I definitely rule the roost. I’m just wondering if cats do “have each other’s backs”. Thanks!
– Pretty Girl
Dear Pretty Girl,
My goodness you have had some big changes to contend with! As I see it, the only thing that has stayed the same is that no one can predict how cats will behave. This actually works well for you because you will likely change again.
In your case, a lot depends on the intention of your humans, and that is not a secret. They love each other and they intend to live together. All three of you cats are loved, and they intend to keep you with them.
You are naturally bonding together at this time because you and Kitten living together is your most common denominator. The house, and the constant presence of the boyfriend and Duke is new to you. The fact there was no mention of pounding Duke into obscurity is a good sign that you will all learn to get along.
Looking at the positive side of things, it is good you two are bonding. You will learn that you actually like each other. Once that sinks in, one of you will venture out to get to know Duke. It will probably be Kitten. These changes are always harder for the one who “rules the roost”, but eventually you will accept things and realize your roost just got bigger. Go ahead and puff up a little. You just got more important.
Your two humans can do a lot to help these changes by individually loving up to each of you, separately and in full view of everyone. If one of you gets your tail furs in a bunch, it must be ignored. Humans are advised to keep up with this practice on a daily basis.
You and Kitten will have a happier life when you accept that Duke is now part of your world. And, if you every need it again, having each other’s back is much better with the power of three! Peace and Love -
Your friend, Fisher